I can’t stand when people judge me based on my relationship choice. Even worse, when people doubt my ability to withstand a military relationship. I was approached today by a coworker who I don’t talk to very often anymore, but we know each other pretty well and we’ve had many conversations throughout the past 3-plus years I’ve been at the company. When he said that he doesn’t know how anyone can keep a relationship like mine, I immediately took offense to his comment. Maybe he didn’t mean any harm by it, or it could have been his tone or the look that went with it. Who is he to think that I’m not strong enough to have this relationship? And does he think that I’m just wasting my time? He doesn’t even know my boyfriend!
I just sum the entire thing up to ignorance – Ignorance is where someone or something is uninformed. This should not be confused with being unintelligent, as one’s level of intelligence and level of education or general awareness are not the same. The word “Ignorant” is an adjective describing a person in the state of being unaware.
In any case, it’s not the best situation for any relationship, and it certainly takes a strong individual to have a relationship with these circumstances. Whether it be the one serving or the one at home waiting, it takes strong will, patience, trust, and a whole lot of love. For all of you that are in cahoots with combat boots, I salute you!